Letter to My Freshman Self
Dear Freshman Matt, Let’s just get this out of the way: I’m not going to send you the winning lottery numbers for the next five years. Please. You should have thought about the possibility of receiving...
View ArticleHome-makers
One of the unfortunate realities of life is that the best time to really think about something is often when you no longer have access to it, the oddly formed hole it leaves behind an easier way to...
View ArticleA Church of Pure Imagination
I’ve been asked multiple times in the past month why I am still side-B, why I am still pursuing celibacy as a gay 23 year-old in these United States of America. What is interesting to me is how, with...
View ArticleIn Weakness
Have you ever been dominated by a single word? One that follows you around like some indelible curse, tacked on by barbed comments or dragged along by a tether of your own design? Mine was weak.* It...
View ArticleBetween Two Weddings
Two years ago, as I was just beginning to think more critically about my faith and sexuality, I attended a wedding. It has been interesting to revisit the memorialized emotions that accompanied the...
View ArticleThe New Ex-Gay
While observing the conversation about faith and sexuality over the past few years I have witnessed a depressing number of harmful and untrue words come out of someone’s mouth right after the preface,...
View ArticleReflections on Gay In Christ: Dimensions of Fidelity
A number of writers for Spiritual Friendship recently partnered with Notre Dame’s Institute for Church Life to put on an academic conference titled Gay in Christ: Dimensions of Fidelity. The...
View ArticleLabel Makers
Well, here we are, talking about labels and identity. Again. [throws taupe confetti in the air] Among those who think people shouldn’t describe themselves as ‘gay’, the most common objection is that it...
View ArticleThe Luxury of Division
First: Julie Rodgers (who apparently isn’t dead, despite the funerary tone of many articles) is a dear friend who has endured far more gross scrutiny with far more grace than most people would be...
View ArticleCommunities of Justice
I recently had the opportunity to speak at a small Christian university’s chapel about sexuality, friendship, justice, and the calling of the church. You can listen to the message here. If you don’t...
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